Stress the catch all word for all that ails you. According to the American Medical Association stress is the cause of 85% of the illness  that effect the body.  Now the question to ask is how do you stop stress so you won’t get sick?

There are several techniques for dealing with the physical and emotional causes and consequences of stress. Short-term symptom relief and long-term cures for chronic stress are possible. But there are many common strategies employed that are counter-productive. There are a million ways to go wrong. Here are some of the more typical errors.

In an attempt to alleviate the tension and worry that accompany stress, some individuals will unwittingly engage in self-destructive behavior.

The stress that can lead to being short-tempered can urge someone to lash out angrily at a trusted friend or loved one. It can incline some to excessive alcohol drinking or coffee drinking with the result of high caffeine intake, leading to more stress symptoms. It can lead to aggressive or violent behavior.

One of the most common results of stress is insomnia. When something is troubling you, and you are physically uncomfortable, it’s difficult to relax enough to sleep. When you do manage to fall asleep, it’s often interrupted during the night, or not the type of deep sleep that is genuinely restful.

Taking a sleeping medication may be helpful in some situations, but long term dependence on any kind of drug to deal with life’s problems is self-defeating. Instead, learn and use some simple meditation techniques to focus the mind and induce a relaxing state.

A heightened focus on problem solving is natural for some types of individuals. But obsessing, even in the face of serious issues, is counter-productive. Try to see the problem as you would if it were being experienced by a friend. You would be concerned, of course. We’re often much better at maintaining objectivity when the problem belongs to someone else.

Some people try to cope with stress by doing the right thing for the wrong reasons. Throwing oneself into projects at work is one way of shifting focus away from problems at home. But avoidance can only be partially successful, and only temporarily at that.

Some problems do go away on their own and ignoring them can be a viable strategy. But circumstances combined with evaluations that lead to chronic stress do not disappear simply because we’re not thinking about them. A temporary break to gain perspective and get the emotions under control is healthy. Hiding one’s head in the sand is not.

Fundamentally, all these incorrect and unhelpful methods have a common root. Reality doesn’t go away when some aspects of it are inconvenient or unpleasant. Life is filled with obstacles placed in the way of achieving values. The existence of those hurdles and the need to overcome them – when combined with doubts about our ability to do so – leads to stress.

Now that you have been given some insight on how not to deal with stress….. Let’s begin dealing with stress by learning how to stop living in the past and accepting the 24/7 doom and gloom for the future. All you have is the present moment. Focus on what makes you feel really good and can put a smile on your face and you are on the road to kicking the stress out of your life.

The Anthem of the Soul:
To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven.

A time to be born, and a time to die; 
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

A time to kill, and a time to heal;
 a time to break down, and a time to build up;

A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
 a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

A time to cast away stones,
 and a time to gather stones together;

A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;

A time to get, and a time to lose;
 a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

A time to rend, and a time to sew;
 a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

A time to love, and a time to hate;
 a time of war, and a time of peace.

What time are you living…..Inquiring minds want to know

Reference: Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

It’s 2011 and that means new life and energy in every area of our lives. Each new year has a universal vibration. The universal vibration for this year (2011) is the vibration of the number 4.

The number 4 represents Family and Work. The number 4 has three levels of  characteristics: Constructive (good); Negative  (bad); and Destructive (worst).

• Constructive: Practicality; service; patience; organization; application; devotion; conservatism; dignity; economy; trust; worthiness; endurance; loyalty

• Negative: Narrowness; repression; clumsiness; dogmatism; crudeness; restriction; rigidity;sternest;dullness

• Destructive: Vulgarity; hatred; animalism; violence; jealousy; inhumanity; resistance; destruction; cruelty

In a 4 vibrational year that means getting back to the basics. Things that were practical; economical and beneficial yesterday can still be found useful today. We have just experienced a great economic shake-up (the mortgage and foreclosure crisis) that is now a reality check for many families as it relates to values and life style. Things will never be the same, as we begin to level off slowly from our flying high lifestyle experiences of yesterday. In this new year under the vibration of the number 4 we will have to secure a new and solid foundation,which is a vital force that is needed to know, feel, and experience peace in our lives. The energy of 2011 will be To Build. 
In the spirit of the vibration for 2011, which is family and work, makes this an excellent time to reconnect with family members, biological and extended. This is the time for families and communities to come together and lay a foundation that is based on Collective Work and Responsibility.

In this New Year it is very important that families LEARN the following:

• How to TRUST each other

• How to WORK TOGETHER to create something that can be passed on from generation to generation

• How to be PATIENT with each other during the developmental stages of the growth and building process

• How to be SUPPORTIVE, positive and encouraging with each other

• How to disagree with RESPECT motivated by love and caring to achieve the “win-win” desired outcome

These attributes lay the foundation in building a family business or working on family project. Just take a moment and visualize families working together creating jobs; improving health conditions; teaching youth life skills, while showing them the power that exist in a family. If you can see the vision, let the number 4 vibration of 2011 be the year that you and your family begin to build a better quality of life that will make a difference in your family for generations to come.

I invite you to step out on faith and do what it is you love and are passionate about… 2011 is the year of Families Working Together

“Remaining in a self imposed prison blocks living life to its fullest“…..Rey
Hombre

When I hear the word comfort zone I think of living life to its fullest enjoying
and having all the blessing I am created to have. To live comfortablely is what
most people say they want. When this question is asked, the answer is usually making enough money to pay all my debts. Then the next question is, what are you doing to make this happen. The answer is nothing. I say nothing because most people live each day doing the same old things every day, day in and day out. This is why your comfort zone  becomes your self imposed prison. You may be asking how is that. You are told that a comfort zone is how you live, work, and socialize in environments that you have grown accustom too.  In essences, how you live determines your type of friends and the people you associate with. The bottom line is, your definition of comfort zone determines the life style you choose to accept or reject. If comfort is defined as satisfaction; a cause or matter of relief or to give strength and hope to, why is your comfort zone a self imposed prison? 
You often hear “you need to step out of your comfort zone”.  Hearing this means change and is reason to cause most people to find so many reason why they should not. To make the change is the key that opens the door to your self imposed prison. We have the key to unlock the prison cell, but  we choose not to use it. The reason is because ,in order to grow and change, we must first be discontent living in a self imposed prison. If you clearly and vividly imagine yourselves being and having the things you truly want, you will create a new picture of yourselves and lifestyle. The existing self imposed prison, in time, will be unacceptable and you will find the true meaning of living in a comfort zone. The choice is yours comfort zone or self emposed prison?

My Comfort Zone……Author Unknow

I used to have a comfort zone {self imposed prison}  where I knew I wouldn’t fail. The same four walls and busywork were really more like jail.  I longed so much to do the things I’d never done before, But stayed inside my comfort zone {self imposed prison} and paced the same old floor.

I said it didn’t matter that I wasn’t doing much.
I said I didn’t care for things like commission checks and such.  I claimed to be so busy with the things inside the zone,
But deep inside I longed for something special of my own.
I couldn’t let my life go by just watching others win.

I held my breath; I stepped outside and let the change begin.
I took a step and with new strength I’d never felt before,
I kissed my comfort zone goodbye and closed and locked the door.

If you’re in a comfort zone {self imposed prison}, afraid to venture out,
Remember that all winners were at one time filled with doubt.
A step or two and words of praise can make your dreams come true.
Reach for your future with a smile; success is there for you!

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The secret to happiness in life is the Health and Wealth Connection. I have a question for you… What is most important in life health or wealth? In a random poll of 500 people, who were asked this question the reply was 76% health; 24% wealth. I proposed that neither health nor wealth is most important. It is important to have both health and wealth.  

All we need in life is health and wealth to be happy. The quality of our life ultimately depends on having health and wealth. How we define having health and wealth in our lives will not be the same for everyone because of our beliefs and personal convictions.

Average Health, no major illnesses, occasional asthma attacks; hypertension under control; take medication every day. Doctor visits and prescriptions covered by insurance. You need wealth to maintain your health….

Wealth, this is a very individual concept. Having $10,000 in the bank may be a fortune to one person but a pittance to someone else. The reality is we need enough cash coming in to be able to at least live comfortably, however we define what that is (again a very personal concept). When you have additional income to add to what you already have allows for affordable luxuries and an improved quality of life with more choices. You need health to enjoy the fruits of your labor and maintain your wealth…..

How do we achieve health and wealth? Does it seem like some people seem to have it all while others are lacking. Why is that? Is it luck, upbringing, hard work, genetics? I believe it is all three and each of us have within ourselves the ability to change the way we are. Our present reality is often a result of our own way of thinking that is holding us back. Lonely miserable people are prone to get ill more easily and tend not to do so well at work or may not be able to get work. This makes them more miserable along with robbing them of the health and wealth they could so easily have in their life. It’s that old vicious downward spiraling cycle of being stuck that brings you to rock bottom. You may be doing well in life then you become stagnant and redundant, you feel depressed, then you lose your self confidence, start to get ill, stop seeing friends, argue with your partner. Life turns out to be a dead end. When you take the steps needed to break this cycle, things will start to improve, one thing leads to another and you can start to reverse the cycle.

How can we succeed in achieving health and wealth in our lives? There are many techniques that can teach you how to change your behavior and mindset to ensure that you win rather than lose. You can learn how to take control of your thoughts, become motivated, increase your self esteem and feel great about yourself and life. To have health and wealth you need to feel that we are worthy of having it. If you do not feel worthy you will never be able to open the locked door to happiness in our life. When you ignore your worthiness you lay the foundation for anger, hate, unhappiness, illness, poverty, failure and lack. To acknowledge that you are worthy opens the door to love peace, happiness, success, prosperity and abundance in every area of your life.

In this article I wanted to share some “food for thought” on how to take back control of your life by understanding that “Health Is Wealth and Wealth Is Health it is your birthright to have both“. In conclusion I ask you the question what is most important, “Health or Wealth“?

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What is it that makes us resist out-of-the-box messages? I believe it is at least in part because we are all creatures of habit. In fact we are more “creatures of trance”.

Real thinking requires enormous concentration and energy. Our brains are set up in such a way that they identify patterns, routine thinking, and then go into a kind of autopilot mode as we go about our business each day. The common examples of this are driving to work, or brushing our teeth in the morning. What is a little more disturbing is that this autopilot approach extends to our work, our social life, even our relations with those we love most.

Underpinning this robotic structure is a set of beliefs. Anything that in some way threatens the validity of these beliefs simply does not compute”. This is because if we were to engage with these possibilities, even if for only a second, we are breaking the trance that supports our existence. How then do we communicate or learn to embrace anything new?

For this we need to take a page from the handbook of the masters of persuasion. These are none other than those master manipulators who shape our world, the “Players”. Persuasion, in its most distilled and potent form is a kind of hypnosis or entrancement. Even though hypnosis is usually shrouded in mystery and hocus pocus, it can be broken down into a sequence of five simple steps.

These steps are:
1. Establishing rapport
2. Focusing attention
3. Deepening the trance
4. Implanting the message
5. Exit

There is a Chinese proverb –the way to topple a giant is to strike him below the knees. If you wish to persuade someone of something they are disinclined to agree with, look at the presuppositions that lie behind those beliefs.

It is analogous to a commander confronted with a bastion that will not yield. Instead of attacking the castle via the main gate, where all the defenders need do is pull up the drawbridge and they are safe, dig your way in by going beneath the foundations.

Of course this is easier said than done, and requires both subtlety and a degree of deception. Finally, it is important to remember that not all castles can be breached, nor does the treasure within always justify the effort!

With all the doom and gloom presented to us 24/7 by the media, step out of the box and start reading between the lines. Just think you might find the key to “FREEDOM“!!!!

What would you add to this point-of-view?

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Living on the east coast this pass week in the midst of a historical snowstorm, that had everyone snowed in and on “lock down” was a real awakening for me about what “Freedom” means.
In the United States of America lies a large bureaucratic city which is the site of one of the world’s largest labor camps. Located in and around the center of this city are community settlements where the government workers live. Each morning the workers move herd-like from their quarters into the labor camps. Each one is at his or her station by 7:30 AM. Here they report to their master for the day’s duties. And here they remain stationed until 5:00 PM when they’re released to go home.

The workers have no choice as to how many hours they must labor. Sometimes they are required to work overtime until their master tells them they may leave and go home. Each year the workers are told when to take their vacations, for how long, and when they must return. They have little choice as to how much money they earn as they are paid not what they are worth, but what the job is worth. They are allowed very little time for lunch and coffee breaks during the labor hours.

The workers will remain in their position in great fear because the master can punish them with the “firing” or “layoff” notice. It is said that even some of the older workers who have been good and faithful have felt the sting of the notice. Day by day, year-by-year, the workers toil and grow older until the master decides it is time to release them to the retirement camps where they’re forced to sit idle and wait for death. It’s a well-known fact that the old workers who try to keep working are sometimes hit with a”stop-their-pension” notice.

I know these work camps exist for I once was a worker. But now I am a free person who lives among the workers. The reason I am free is because I am in business for myself as an Entrepreneur. Yes, I am truly free. I arise in the morning at the hour called for by my schedule. I decide my own hours. I can even sleep in late while the workers are at work. I can vacation when, where, and for how long I please. I’m free to take my coffee break and lunch when I decide. And of course, I can decide my own paycheck because I am not a worker.

I can choose to work when and where I please and with whom I please. I’m free to stay in the city for as long as I want, or to move on to greener pastures if I decide to. I’ve seen many workers sadly pack their belongings to leave their city in search of a new master, but it is always the same.

There is, however, a ray of hope for the worker. He or she can buy their own freedom. The cost is not high,yet it seems high to those who do not have the courage to pay the price. What is the price? 30+ inches of snow is a reality message that “Freedom” means ” ONE MUST BE WILLING TO BE ONE’S OWN MASTER“!

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The word Appreciate means “to recognize the worth,
importance, or value of “. I want to take this moment to appreciate YOU and recognize your Worth, Importance and Value. It’s because of you that I get to do what I’m here to do and live my Passion. And through this new year 2010, take a moment to recognize YOUR OWN Worth, Importance and Value.
I really appreciate the fact that you have supported, encouraged and inspired me to grow, share my talents and knowledge with you for many years. And if you’re a customer, client, or soon to be supporter then I really REALLY appreciate you because without you there is no me doing what I love to do “Share Information“.

Thank You for being in my life, from the year we first connected up to this very moment. The fact that we may or may not have touched based with each other for some years, months or days it is still because of your presences in my life that has made it possible for me to grow and improve on the quality and value of services I can offer to the community. Let’s make plans to connect and work together to make 2010 a year we are all able to achieved the desires of our heart.

Love, Peace, Happiness and Prosperity Always,
Njideka “Queen of StressFree Living” Olatunde

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